Adoption institute recommends more support for birth mothers
Mothers deciding to place their infants for adoption deserve better counseling, more time to change their minds and more support in trying...
The Associated Press
NEW YORK — Mothers deciding to place their infants for adoption deserve better counseling, more time to change their minds and more support in trying to keep track of the children they relinquish, a leading adoption institute recommends in a new report.
The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute said its report, being issued today, is the most comprehensive ever devoted to birth mothers, whom it described as "the least understood and most stigmatized participants" in the adoption process.
"Birth parents have been a population that has been neglected for so long; just starting a dialogue that respects them as flesh-and-blood human beings is really important," said the institute's executive director, Adam Pertman.
The report focuses on U.S. mothers who voluntarily place infants for adoption; 13,000 to 14,000 such adoptions occur annually. Most of the nation's roughly 135,000 adoptions each year are from foster care; the next biggest category is overseas adoptions.
In contrast to a few decades ago, many of the voluntary U.S. adoptions are "open," with adoptive parents communicating with the birth mother and often allowing regular contact with the adopted child. However, the report says a significant number of birth mothers are manipulated, pressured and deceived, sometimes finding that they have no recourse when agreements they negotiated to visit or keep track of their children are broken.
"If you make a decision about adoption based on thinking you'll be able to see this child grow up, and suddenly the carpet is pulled from under you, ... you go through this traumatic loss that some women never come to terms with," the report's author, Susan Smith, said in a telephone interview.
The report recommends that all states establish legally enforceable post-adoption contact agreements; it said only 13, including Washington, have such policies covering infant adoptions.
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The report also recommends extending other rights to birth mothers, including pre-adoption access to pressure-free counseling about their options.
"It amazes me how many adoptions are done by attorneys, where the birth mothers have zero counseling," Smith said. "There are a lot of sharks out there, manipulating them in every way they know how, and the laws don't prevent that in most states."
Jenna Hatfield, 25, of Cambridge, Ohio, said she got little insightful counseling before she agreed three years ago to the adoption of her daughter, Ariana, by a couple from Pennsylvania.
"My agency did not tell me until a month after I signed the agreement that open adoptions are not enforceable in Pennsylvania," Hatfield said.
She said she has been fortunate in befriending the adoptive parents; they regularly bring Ariana to visit Hatfield, who is now married and has a 1-year-old son.
"Thus far it's worked very well for me, just a couple of bumps," Hatfield said. "But unless both sides are willing to put in the legwork, there are going to be problems, and they'd need counseling to help them meet in the middle."
The report recommended birth mothers be given at least a few weeks after childbirth before the adoption decision becomes irrevocable. Now, irrevocable consent for an adoption can be established within four days after birth in roughly half the states.
The report said the rights of birth fathers also deserve stronger protections, including notification of pending adoptions.
Current adoption practices, the report said, "are too often based on outdated understandings, faulty stereotypes, and misinformation from the time that secrecy pervaded the adoption world."
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